We have all heard women say this. They want real men, not little boys.
But seriously, I don't know how a woman would differentiate between the two.
Maybe that makes me a little boy.
I mean, what does it really mean? How would a woman answer that? I really wish women visited this blog so that I can get an answer.
I mean, do real men co-host dinner parties, take out the trash...without (too much) complaint, call their girls in front of their boys without trying to hide it, pay bills on time, own a car? Are these the hallmarks of a man?
What about a boy? Do boys play Madden, live at home, work steady "professional" jobs with little to no ambition, hang out with their boys for hours without calling their girls? Are these boy tendencies?
What if a guy does things from both lists? Does that make him a boy or a man? Or a hybrid manboy? Is a Manboy better than a boy, but worse than a man? Am I crazy to think that the best a woman can ask for from a man under 35 is a man who can keep his boy in check?
As you can see, I have questions...and I need answers. What ca I say, I'm curious.
Derek
Subscribe to:
Post Comments (Atom)
Posts
Women don't know the difference. That's the problem.
ReplyDeleteA man make's a woman feel safe. A lot of times, thats what women are looking for and it has a lot to do with their determining factors between men and boys.
ReplyDeleteA boy in this context is irresponsible, socially and professionally.
REAL MEN vs BOYS
ReplyDeleteDavid H. Grisham
It might seem kind of silly for girls or women to
learn what it takes for a boy to grow into a man, but
it makes perfect sense when you really think about it.
One of the most critical things in a woman's life will
be the man in her life. In this world, the man a woman
chooses, will be the single greatest choice of good or
evil in her life. He will be the greatest joy or
sorrow for her depending on the kind of man he
becomes. A woman's choice of man will affect the rest
of her life so a woman MUST learn to choose wisely. If
I sent you into the parking lot with a thousand cars,
gave you my set of keys, and asked you to drive my car
to the door, what is the most critical piece of
information you need to do that? You need a
description of my car. You'll never find it if you
don't know what you're looking for. So it is with men.
How can you find a good man, out of the millions out
there, if you don't know what the good ones look like?
So, this is what we'll be looking at today. What does
a REAL man look like?
First, let's clear up some misconceptions and
outright lies that the world tells you about real men.
Bad boys are NOT real men. They are just bad boys. As
long as they remain bad, they will remain boys. Women
don't want a boy, they want a man. They need a man. I
know a lot of boys in men's bodies. They may be 40 or
50 years old but they are still just boys that never
grew up. They cheat, they lie, they run around, they
manipulate, they get drunk, they use drugs, they beat
women, simply because boys are selfish. They want what
they want when they want it and a woman with a boy is
just another one of his toys. Boys use and abuse, they
do not nurture and love because they do not know how.
If a boy says he loves you he is a liar. He is telling
you that because he wants something from you, usually
sex. As soon is sex is over, he's off to another toy.
That is because boys are just playing like little boys
do. They pretend. If you are living with one out of
wedlock he may say things like, " marriage is just a
piece of paper" or some such nonsense. He says these
things because he is afraid of commitment. He has one
foot in your bed and another out the door. He's still
shopping. He will not commit to anything permanent
like marriage because you are just a temporary sex
toy. You will someday be replaced and he wants that as
easy as possible. Divorce is not easy. Again, he is
only thinking about himself. He is just "playing"
house because he is still just a boy. Boys will never
make you happy because they are only trying to make
themselves happy. They will keep you just happy enough
to hang around to play with when they want and they
are jealous of their toys, they don't want any other
boys playing with you. That is why you might find
yourself in the brokenheart-makeup cycle. He hurts you
then he says he's sorry then he hurts you then he says
he's sorry, etc. It goes on forever. He is just giving
you enough to stay but not enough to satisfy you
because he isn't trying to satisfy you. He is
satisfying himself and just giving you enough to
barely hang on. If this has happened to you, you're
with a boy. You need a man.
To understand a real man you must understand how God
intended a man to be. God created man in the
wilderness and then put him in the Garden of Eden. God
created Eve in the garden. So, men are used to the
wilderness and they seek it out in their lives. They
are explorers, adventurers, and conquerors. Boys are
plunderers, pillagers, and destroyers. The nature is
there, it is the maturity level that determines which
direction that nature will go. Men are aggressive
because God wants heroes. So, aggression is not
necessarily a bad thing. It just depends where that
aggression goes. Real men are heroes, boys are
villains. Good guys or bad guys. Cops or robbers. Good
men always stand up against bad boys. So, what are
some signs of a real man?
Real men commit. They commit to jobs. They commit to
school. They commit to God. They commit to honor. They
commit to family. They commit to women. They do this
because men realize that there are things bigger than
themselves and the world does not revolve around them.
They also do this because real men are brave, not
cowards. They do not fear commitment. They know that
men have what it takes to overcome and stick to
whatever they commit to. Real men commit to whatever
they value. Real men are decisive. Real men give real
love. They say what they mean and they mean what they
say. Real men give of themselves. Real men work hard
because they think that what they are working for is
important, whether it is a job or a relationship. Real
men value women. They will sacrifice for you, not make
you sacrifice your self-respect to stick around. Real
men want respect because they value it and in turn
they give respect to you for the same reason. Real men
lead the way, not hold you back. A real man will swell
your heart with pride, not break your heart. You will
be proud of a real man. You will love a real man with
a passion that comes from your soul. A real man will
give his life for you and you will know it. It will be
his daily giving that convinces you that when the
chips are down he will be there. Real men stick
around, not run off. A real man values your heart more
than what's between your legs. If you want a quick and
easy way to know if a man loves you, it is this; if he
is willing to put your needs ahead of his own
desires. If he does that, you have a real man. If not,
you have a boy. What advice do I give you if you have
a boy instead of a man? Leave skid marks!